Its difficult to decipher when was the first time you were left out in the rain by someone you cared about(emotionally, that is) and made to feel incompetent or unwanted or like nothing you thought mattered but each of us will admit albeit reluctantly that it has happened to you. And on this the eve of Valentines Day, I saw fit to implement a few of my thoughts on the subject of finding true love. If it still actually exists somewhere, I heard Love was hiding with the Loch-ness monster for a while and then was seen living it up with the tooth-fairy, leaving all of us to wonder does Love actually want to be found?
And as much as we've tried to avoid it, get around it and ignore it, you just can't stop yourself from being drawn to the light and imagining the perfect scenario. The scenario we all strive for when it comes to relationships where everything just seems to fall into place and make sense.
Some of us, if we're lucky, achieve parts of this perfect scenario while the rest of us are left to fin for ourselves in this deep, ravenous, extremely hazardous war zone called dating," its really a jungle out here!
A jungle none of us were equipped to deal with. It's a war zone where each person follows their own rules. Rules they learned and developed through their own personal experiences, some treacherous and some amazing. But all unique to that individual. Meaning that each and every single person's hard drive is set to a different function.
We are all in the same war and yet we are all playing by different rules? Its quite shocking if you ask me. How is someone supposed to find the one? Where's the playbook because didn't get one on the way into this mess...?
I think in this world filled with great expectations, we need to go back in time to the days when people got together because they got to know on another and each others families first. Yes I know, these traditional methods do sound intrusive and uncomfortable to most but we really need to go back in time a little here. Obviously the options we have been trying thus far are just simply not working are they?
We find ourselves going in and out of spurts of relationships that never lead to anything meaningful and end before you ever got to really know the person, yet you are left with all these impressions and emotions that get harder and harder to shake off as years pass. And its the same for men as it is for women. We all feel it at some point, maybe some later than others..
Isn't anyone ready to get off the Roller Coaster? I sure am, and I'll tell you, although I spend most of my time by the pool tipping the cabana boy, I've learned the importance of finding true meaningful relationships. Starting with friends, to family and lovers. The more "time" you take to get to know the person, the better things will be for everyone.
I know it seems like a foreign concept, this thing called "taking time" that none of us have enough of now a days. But you know what, the last time I checked, we still have 24 hours in a day and 365 days in year so the time is there. We just need to take it easy. Your opportunity will come, you just need to give it time...
I have a feeling, due to the subject matter, this will be the first of many installments but in the meantime keep in mind that Love only hurts if you let it and remember have faith in your bare instincts.
Au revoir!
And as much as we've tried to avoid it, get around it and ignore it, you just can't stop yourself from being drawn to the light and imagining the perfect scenario. The scenario we all strive for when it comes to relationships where everything just seems to fall into place and make sense.
Some of us, if we're lucky, achieve parts of this perfect scenario while the rest of us are left to fin for ourselves in this deep, ravenous, extremely hazardous war zone called dating," its really a jungle out here!
A jungle none of us were equipped to deal with. It's a war zone where each person follows their own rules. Rules they learned and developed through their own personal experiences, some treacherous and some amazing. But all unique to that individual. Meaning that each and every single person's hard drive is set to a different function.
We are all in the same war and yet we are all playing by different rules? Its quite shocking if you ask me. How is someone supposed to find the one? Where's the playbook because didn't get one on the way into this mess...?
I think in this world filled with great expectations, we need to go back in time to the days when people got together because they got to know on another and each others families first. Yes I know, these traditional methods do sound intrusive and uncomfortable to most but we really need to go back in time a little here. Obviously the options we have been trying thus far are just simply not working are they?
We find ourselves going in and out of spurts of relationships that never lead to anything meaningful and end before you ever got to really know the person, yet you are left with all these impressions and emotions that get harder and harder to shake off as years pass. And its the same for men as it is for women. We all feel it at some point, maybe some later than others..
Isn't anyone ready to get off the Roller Coaster? I sure am, and I'll tell you, although I spend most of my time by the pool tipping the cabana boy, I've learned the importance of finding true meaningful relationships. Starting with friends, to family and lovers. The more "time" you take to get to know the person, the better things will be for everyone.
I know it seems like a foreign concept, this thing called "taking time" that none of us have enough of now a days. But you know what, the last time I checked, we still have 24 hours in a day and 365 days in year so the time is there. We just need to take it easy. Your opportunity will come, you just need to give it time...
I have a feeling, due to the subject matter, this will be the first of many installments but in the meantime keep in mind that Love only hurts if you let it and remember have faith in your bare instincts.
Au revoir!
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